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"I didn't expect you to be a young little girl."

Jun 26, 2022

I am finishing my CS PhD. The overall CS community in the U.S. is dominated by men [1], and our field especially so.

Photo of the audience at the June 15 Keynote at PLDI 2022

Over the years, I have experienced some unexpected conversations that showed patterns. Summarizing them here in case they might help other minorities navigate similar situations.

Pattern 1: Negative stereotypes

Happened at least 9 times during my PhD.

These situations happened not only to me. Other minorities in more senior career stages seem to have similar concerns [2][3][4].

Pattern 2: Giving less credit

Happened at least 6 times during my PhD.

These conversations sounded gender-neural, but they happened more often to me than to my male counterparts. Once again, I am not alone here [5][6].

Pattern 3: Patronizing

Happened at least 5 times, 4 during my PhD and 1 before my PhD.

Honestly I did not expect such conversations to happen when I finished undergrad. I had expected computer scientists to be always prudent, always objective, and always unbiased. But, as it turned out, some of the people I met weren't.

Solutions?

Before changing how people think in the long term, we need temporary remedies. Here are my preferred solutions:

Disclaimer

This blog post, on its own, is not intended to justify universal conclusions. Each of the above situations happened a single-digit number of times to me. Considering the large number of people I have interacted with over these years, the above incidents came from a small fraction of people.

 

References

[0] Harvard Business Review, Women in Leadership Face Ageism at Every Age, 2023: https://hbr.org/2023/06/women-in-leadership-face-ageism-at-every-age
[1] 2021 Taulbee Survey - Computing Research Association, https://cra.org/resources/taulbee-survey/
[2] Jean Yang, 2021: "I noticed when I actually get enough sleep and look polished, people will say things like, "Oh you look 23" and do not seem to take me as seriously. The weeks when I look like I haven't slept in a few days, people seem to... just listen to me." https://twitter.com/jeanqasaur/status/1452720878102274048
[3] Irene Zhang, 2021: "I’ve literally wanted to dye my hair pink for a decade but fears about being taken seriously as a CS academic kept me from doing it. So, this is my gift to myself for getting 3 papers into SOSP this year." https://twitter.com/schemeprincess/status/1452335659771961352
[4] Roopsha Samanta, 2020: "Much needed website refresh... I have heard women profs shouldn't smile too much in their photos, but whatever..." https://twitter.com/roopshasamanta/status/1308901793552793611
[5] Talia Ringer, 2022: "I had a morning meeting where senior faculty in my area argued against everything I said about the quals process when I said it, but then when other people said the same things they were like "that's a good idea" so that was not a good start to my day" https://twitter.com/TaliaRinger/status/1540183268430991360
[6] Ross, M.B., Glennon, B.M., Murciano-Goroff, R. et al. Women are Credited Less in Science than are Men. Nature (2022). https://doi.org/10.1038/s41586-022-04966-w
[7] Jean Yang, 2016, What to Wear for Academic Interviews, or How to Dress Like a Man Without Looking Like a Man, https://medium.com/@jeanqasaur/what-to-wear-for-academic-interviews-or-how-to-dress-like-a-man-without-looking-like-a-man-6b2e5f881043